You complement me vs you complete me.
It got me thinking...
I can't help but think about the famous line from the movie Jerry Maguire, "You complete me." It's a line that has been used in countless romantic movies and love songs, but is it really true? Do we need someone to complete us or do we just need someone to complement us?
I've always been a firm believer that a relationship should add to your life, not be your life. Your partner should complement you, not complete you. You should be happy and fulfilled on your own before you enter a relationship. A relationship should enhance your life, not define it.
When you think about it, the idea of someone completing you is a bit daunting. It implies that without that person, you are not whole. That's a lot of pressure to put on someone else. It's also not fair to yourself. You should never rely on someone else for your happiness and sense of self-worth. That should come from within.
On the other hand, when someone complements you, they add to your life in a positive way. They bring out the best in you and help you grow as a person. They don't fill a void, but rather enhance your already wonderful life.
A relationship can bring immense joy, love, and companionship into our lives. It can be a source of emotional support and a safe space to share our thoughts and feelings. When we become too dependent on our partner for our happiness and well-being, we may lose sight of our own individuality and sense of self. We may start to neglect our own interests and hobbies, our friendships and relationships with family, and even our own physical and emotional health.
Here are some reasons why a relationship should add to your life, not be your life:
You need to maintain your individuality: It's important to maintain your own interests, hobbies, and social circles outside of your relationship. This not only helps you maintain a sense of independence, but it can also help you maintain a healthy perspective on life and relationships.
You need to prioritize your own well-being: In order to be a good partner, you need to take care of yourself first. This means prioritizing your physical and emotional health, as well as your own personal and professional goals.
You need to have a healthy balance: A healthy relationship is one in which both partners feel fulfilled and supported, but also have their own lives and interests. It's important to find a balance that works for both partners, where each person feels valued and respected.
You need to maintain other relationships: Your relationship with your partner is important, but so are your relationships with family and friends. It's important to maintain these connections, as they can provide support and perspective outside of your relationship.
You need to avoid becoming too dependent: When we become too dependent on our partner for our happiness and well-being, we may lose our sense of self and become too reliant on them. This can put undue pressure on the relationship and cause strain and conflict.
So, if you're out there searching for your soulmate, remember this: you don't need someone to complete you. You are already complete on your own. What you need is someone who complements you, adds to your life, and makes it even more amazing than it already is. We can create a strong and fulfilling partnership that complements our lives, rather than consumes it.
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