If They Like You, You'll Know. If They Don't, You'll Be Confused.

"I forgive myself for viewing someone's lack of reciprocation as a challenge to convince them of my worth."

It got me thinking..

It's a common occurrence to experience confusion when it comes to understanding someone's feelings towards you. Sometimes, we find ourselves overthinking and analyzing every interaction with a person to figure out if they like us or not. It's like playing a game of hide and seek - if they like you, they'll come out of hiding and show themselves, but if they don't, you'll be left searching in the dark. However, the truth is, if someone likes you, you'll know. If they don't, you'll be confused.

When someone likes you, they make an effort to be around you and show interest in your life. They ask questions about your day, remember important details, and actively listen when you speak. They make an effort to communicate with you and are responsive to your messages and calls.

On the other hand, when someone doesn't like you, their behaviour can be difficult to decipher. They may avoid spending time with you or make excuses not to hang out. They might give you short or dismissive responses to your messages and seem disinterested in what you have to say. They may also send mixed signals, leaving you confused and unsure of where you stand.

It's important to recognize that we cannot control how someone feels about us. We can only control our own actions and reactions. If we find ourselves in a situation where we're not sure where we stand with someone, we should communicate openly and honestly. It's better to address the issue directly than to make assumptions and overanalyze every interaction.

It's also important to remember that not everyone is going to like us, and that's okay. We are all unique individuals with different personalities, interests, and values. It's natural to gravitate towards some people and not others. We should focus on building relationships with those who appreciate and value us for who we are.

On a kind note, just stop taking the breadcrumbs someone throws at you and using your imagination or unhealed trauma to make it an entire loaf. Your worth doesn't depend on someone else's opinion of you. You are amazing just the way you are, and you don't need anyone's approval to validate that.