What You Don't Heal In Your Singleness Will Spread Like A Disease In Your Togetherness

The grief we haven't felt, the anger we haven't expressed, the pain we haven't faced, will always find its way into our intimate life.

It got me thinking...

Singleness can be a time of great growth, reflection, and healing. It is a time to focus on oneself, to address personal issues, and to become the best version of oneself. However, for some, singleness can be a time of loneliness, frustration, and bitterness. It is in these times that it is easy to neglect the necessary healing that is needed before entering into a relationship. The truth is, what you don't heal in your singleness will spread like a disease in your togetherness. The wounds and issues that we carry from our past have a way of seeping into our present relationships. They can show up in the form of insecurities, mistrust, fear, and resentment. If left unaddressed, these issues can damage a relationship and even lead to its demise. For example, if you enter into a relationship with trust issues because of past experiences, it can cause you to be overly jealous and suspicious of your partner. This can cause tension and strain in the relationship, leading to a breakdown of trust between you and your partner. Similarly, if you have unresolved anger or bitterness from past relationships, it can cause you to hold onto grudges and resentment towards your current partner, making it difficult to fully connect and build a healthy relationship. It is important to take the time to address these issues before entering into a relationship. This means being honest with yourself about the areas that need healing and taking the necessary steps to work through them. This may involve seeking the help of a therapist, joining a support group, or simply taking time to reflect and process your emotions. When you do the necessary work in your singleness, you become a healthier and more whole person. You are better equipped to enter into a relationship with a healthy mindset, and you are more likely to attract a partner who is also healthy and whole. This sets the foundation for a strong and healthy relationship. Take the time to address any issues or wounds from your past before entering into a relationship. This will not only help you become a healthier and more whole person but will also set the foundation for a strong and healthy relationship in the future.